Beautiful Words From A Stranger

I'm a huge blog stalker, which I've mentioned on here before.  I love reading other peoples' blogs and finding out about their lives . . . it just fascinates me.

So a few nights ago I discovered hisgiantmistake.com.  It's the blog of a woman named Cleo, who discovered her husband was having an affair, and the journey that discovery has taken her on thus far.  She writes beautifully and she talks a lot about finding herself, loving herself, and paying attention to the signs that are all around us in our lives.  It's really just a beautiful blog, full of hope and optimism.

I found myself really moved by it, because I'm most definitely on a self-discovery-figure-out-my-life kind of journey right now.  Cleo talks a lot about signs and in a way I think I was supposed to find her blog at this point in my life.  So much of what she said was just comforting and uplifting to me and I'm grateful for her words.

So grateful that I emailed Cleo, and told her how much I enjoyed her blog and how inspired I was by her.  I mentioned that I thought I was supposed to find her blog and I told her how I came to be on my own journey--about being dumped before my wedding and all that.

And to my surprise, she wrote back!  And it was one of the best emails I've ever gotten.  She thanked me for reading and writing, and told me that I dodged a bullet.  It was just all so sweet and encouraging, and then this:

"This experience is going to create such a rich layer of beauty inside of you.  I just know it."

Isn't that lovely?  I think it's probably the most inspirational thing anyone has said to me since the break up, and I am holding onto those words.

I just love it.  It's fantastic that people can connect to each other via blogs.  Seriously, I love it.

And if you have a chance, check out Cleo's blog.  It's awesome.

Blog Stalking

I readily admit that I am a blog stalker.  I love to read random people's blogs.

This all started one day when I was reading a friend's blog.   I was bored and hit the "Next Blog" button at the top of the page.  It took me to a cute little Mormon mommy blog (that's what I call them--Mormon women who blog about their marriage/kids . . . not meant to be offensive, of course!  I love these blogs!)  So from this blog, I found another Mormon mommy blog, which led me to a Mormon almost mommy blog (the blogger was pregnant at the time I found her blog, she's since had a cute little boy!)  So from this blog, I found another Mormon family blog.

From that blog I found my first BLM (baby lost momma) blog.  This particular blog was a couple who lost their first child, a daughter, to an accidental drowning when she was just over a year old.  It was heartbreaking.  From that blog I found more BLM blogs, and I just fell in love with this little community.  The women who blog about losing their children and how it's impacted them and their marriages and their faith are amazing.  The stories are heartbreaking but at the same time so inspiring.  I discovered these blogs right as Corey was ending our relationship, and weirdly, they gave me a lot of hope and put my grief into perspective.  I thought, if these women can go through these trials and survive then certainly I can survive a break up.

From BLM blogs I found infertility/TTC/miscarriage blogs.  A lot of those blogs involve divorce, because a good number of marriages don't survive infertility (which is heartbreaking).  From there I found divorce blogs, and from there, a whole lot of blogs about infidelity--some of which were also about subsequent divorce, some of which were about how to rebuild a marriage after infidelity.

Anyway.  It's all fascinating, and as I was reading these infidelity blogs last night I thought about how weird it was that a Mormon mommy blog led to all of that.  Six degrees of separation and whatnot, I guess.